Anger monitoring - a spiritual approach .. ( as per gurbani)

I prayed sincerely to satguru to enlighten me. As per inspiration received, I perused the shabad of guru maharaj. More I contemplated over it, more helpful it proved. And lo later on, with satguru’s grace, I have been able to control anger. It had proved to be panacea for me. I want to share my perception.

The cause of anger is our attitude and perception of situation. We are irritated because we forget that

# Same God is in each and every heart

# Every person is acting as per wish of GOD only

# Nothing is mine and thine. Everything belongs to HIM only. We are
using/relishing the belongings as per HIS will only

# We are befooled by emotions, which always mislead us

# We are frustrated because we craved for materialistic wealth, pride,
honour etc. and whenever our expectation was not fulfilled, that caused irritation. We forget that if we get rid of these cravings and crave for waheguru’s blessings through naam simran, we will not be after maya but all worldly pleasures will be after us.

Now think

# When we are in pride, our mind always wander aimlessly. When we are humble, we recognize God everywhere. How can and how can we afford to be angry with our LORD? We should be humble, see HIM in all and enjoy the bliss gifted by satguru by providing us Guidance. HUMILITY is always rewarding.

# Nothing is yours. Everything is of God. Nothing and nobody is bad. Donot judge others. You donot have that right. If you treat others as bad persons, others will treat you same way. Vicious cycle will start. Why donot have positive attitude and have love towards others? It will again have multiplying factor and you will be loved, helped and co-operated by others.

# More emotions you have, deeper is trapping of rebirths. Why not to concentrate on naam simran and get rid of these vicious cycles?
Till the “mine and thine” is deeply engraved in your subconscious
mind, emotions will not leave you (root cause of anger). Why not
to seek divine help in the matter by rendering humble prayer (ardas)?

# Why not to understand that pride, power, materialistic
achievements, ego are not real victory. It is defeat. Real victory is
realization, blessings of God and not earthly victory. This is
obtained by grace of satguru, who guides us that God is cause of
causes and contemplation on HIS naam is the way out. Why to be
entangled in delusions created by maya and provoking you into
anger?

# Then what to do when anger appears? Seek divine help by prayers
(ardas). Treat the scene as part and parcel of HIS cosmic drama
(leela). Treat the person offending you as puppet in hands of God.
Seek waheguru’s guidance, work out what your duty and role
warrants. Take action honestly and leave everything in hands of
God. Do not be emotional. It weakens you.

I repeatedly, recite relevant shabad, the gift of my satguru. And I am strengthened every time.
The above is my perception only and not literal translation of shabad. I am a person of little wisdom and donot possess authority over the subject. I am still begging mercy from satguru. I beg apology from sadh sangat for my mistakes. If I require rectification, please help me out. I will be obliged. Kindly oblige me by sharing your esteemed opinions. Now original baani, from sri guru granth sahib jee maharaj for your ready reference

How to control anger

If we determine to solve a problem, we have to find out its roots. I feel that we get angry with people who are related to us in any way and our expectations from them fail. The more intimate the relationship, the angrier we feel. As such we feel more frustrated from such instances happening in our own families than associates in career or unrelated persons. It is our perception of situation and logics presented by chitta (sub-conscious mind), that makes us react and get irritated, if attitude thrusts us towards that. We feel that our sorrows are due to actions of those particular persons. In fact, we have to understand that the remote control of our sorrows is not, in fact, in the hands of other people.

In fact, we get two types of anger. Number one, internal that is, what our heart felt; number two, our reaction and expression to related person. Health-wise speaking, number two is not so dangerous. Number one internal feeling can have negative effect to any extent in our lives, on our mental tranquility, on our health. It is simply because we conclude that OUR SUCH AND SUCH SORROWS ARE CAUSED BY THAT PERSON. If we understand following facts and ask chitta to accept them honestly, anger will vanish.

We get pleasures and sorrows as per our prarabdh (destiny) as arranged by orders of the God Almighty. These are outcomes of our previous karmas (actions). And these karmas ripen at different intervals of time. We get results of karmas at appropriate times. The persons delivering you pleasures and sorrows are just postmen of that God. You will get what you deserve, not necessarily through those persons whom you had been helping or maltreating. Presently whoever is instrumental in delivering you pleasure or sorrow, will act towards you as per your immediate destiny. NOBODY, IN FACT, CAN BENEFIT US OR CAN DAMAGE US.

Next point is, why are you irritated with your family members or your subordinates? Because they did not obey you (or at least obeyed the same very unwillingly). You concluded, that the pertinent point should be fixed in a particular manner. They donot agree. Now I ask you to honestly judge yourself, as to how much you obey YOURSELF. You know what should be done, you resolve to take specific actions for self-improvement, health, performance of duties etc., but you simply ignore your own resolutions due to laziness, casual approach and on flimsy grounds. What right, do you possess, to get angry with people, who disagree with you?

Next point is, anger strengthens our wrong attitudes and spoils our health, our mental tranquility. We get hypertension, depression, heart diseases and other problems. Can we afford all that? No.

Now what is the solution? Should we forget imposition of discipline in our family members and subordinates and should we surrender before every Tom Dock& Harry?
No. Big No.
I told, there are basically, two faces of anger. Internal and external. This heartfelt internal anger is dangerous and damaging. In your practical life, take stock of position, think out an honest way to monitor the situation, express your views to relevant persons and try to handle the situation tactfully as the situation and your role warrants. Then, whatever is going to happen, let it happen. Silently, watch the drama of God unfold, and at the heart of hearts, do not blame that person accountable for your sorrows. You can and should act in best of your capacity, but results are not in your hands. Yes, your, honest approach, will make your future prarbdh much better and your equipoised mind will save your health.

Expression of external anger can be used, though avoided to handle the situation, but internal anger must be pacified by pondering over the above logics.

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Sukhmani sahib jee as I perceived

ਤੇਰਾ ਕੀਤਾ ਜਾਤੋ ਨਾਹੀ ਮੈਨੋ ਜੋਗੁ ਕੀਤੋਈ ॥
ਨਿਰਗੁਣਿਆਰੇ ਕੋ ਗੁਣੁ ਨਾਹੀ ਆਪੇ ਤਰਸੁ ਪਇਓਈ ॥
ਮੈ ਤਰਸੁ ਪਇਆ ਮਿਹਰਾਮਤਿ ਹੋਈ ਸਤਿਗੁਰੁ ਸਜਣੁ ਮਿਲਿਆ ॥
ਨਾਨਕ ਨਾਮੁ ਮਿਲੈ ਤਾਂ ਜੀਵਾਂ ਤਨੁ ਮਨੁ ਥੀਵੈ ਹਰਿਆ ॥੧॥
Tera kita jata nahi maino jog kitoi
Main nirgurniare KO gun nahee aape taras paioi
Taras paia mihramat hoi satgur sajan milia
Nanak nam milaia tan jivan tan man dhivai haria
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My satguru had been merciful to me. I never deserved such mercy. It is HIS glory, HIS greatness and HIS mercy that inspired useless person like me to attempt to understand gurbani and to express the perception in this pattern. I never had dreamt of such an outcome nor had I any confidence because I am neither a scholar nor have any command over language. And HE has filled my hirday with bliss bliss and bliss. Main nirguniar see, usne aap kirpa keetee, usde mehar sadka mera man tan haria hua.
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I lack words to express my gratitude towards HIM.
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Again I repeat my humble request to sadh sangat ji. I am a semi-literate person with no command either on language or on knowledge but even then I was inspired to spell out my understanding of sukhmani sahib ji. I seek humble apology from learned persons for shortcomings. I admit I am not a scholar. If I am wrong somewhere, I may be pointed out. I will re-align my understanding by taking those words as hukam of my waheguru jee.

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(1) Introduction

(2) Why Sukhmani Sahib?

(3) Why God is more dependable than these worldly supports?

(4) Why should we not forget to express our gratitude?

(5) Why should we remain thankful to HIM even when HE did not give what we requested (or took back what HE gave)?

(6) Why overindulge in wordly affairs?

(7) How this show of creation is managed by HIM?

(8) Why simran?

(9) Which is best religion, action, place, listenable item?

(10) How waheguru responds to devotee and how these devotees feel like?

(11) We are fearless when we trust HIM

(12) We have to PRAY to get HIM # Antargat jis ap janae – Nanak tis jan ap bujhae

(13) Humbleness pays - sukhee basai maskeenee-aa aap nivaar talay.

(14) What should be routine of life for aspirant (gursikh)?

(15,16,17) Satguru’s blessings, saints, barahm gi-aanee

(18)Praying verses from Sukhmani Sahib ji: (English transliteration)

Praying verses from Sukhmani Sahib ji.(Gurmukhi)

(19) DHAN DHAN SATGURU ARJAN DEV JI MAHARAJ

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SATGURU RAKHA

How to do simran?

Texts of my 2 emails sent to a cyber friend.

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How to do simran (Part 1)

Email number 1 to an aspirant.

Question is how to do simran?
More you write, less it seems to be. There cannot be comprehensive and conclusive note thereof. Still a view>
What is simran?
Simran is contemplation on glories of God (waheguru) with love and devotion. Guru granth sahibjee has covered complete philosophy of cosmic play. Japjee sahib is its key. It is dhur ki baani. Waheguru’s precious gift to us through dhan dhan satguru Nanak Dev Jee maharaj.
The question was “Kiv sachiaaraa hoeeai kiv kooRai tuTai paal”( as to how false perception inscribed can be removed). And the answer is “Hukam rajhaaee chalNaa naanak likhiaa naal” (to obey HIS orders is the only way out). Second paudi, removes our ego and guides us that HE only is doer. We are able to and we do only what HE wishes. The self-imposed ego is barrier between us and God. What I feel, contemplation on this paudi removes our haume (ego). Without removing ego, simran is very difficult.

Then question was “Phaer ki agai rakhiai jit disai darbaar - Munhaou ki bolan boleeai jit sun dharae piaar”( What offering may be made, what language may be uttered to invoke the gift of His Love?) Mere satguru guided “Amrit vaela sach naaou vadiaaee veechaar”(the best course is to sing his glories in ambrosial hours of early morning). Though one should do simran most of the time, but amritvela is quite blissful.

Only akalpurakh waheguru is to be worshipped. The reflection is to be with love and devotion. And to increase same, one should endeavor to study scriptures, attend kirtan and satsangs, interact with gursikhs, perform seva in gurudwaras and other religious activites. Rehatmaryada should be followed and nitnem paths (with its understanding) should be followed. Sincere study of gurbani motivates and empowers us. Guru maharaj blesses with devotion and blessings of waheguru shower.
The above is my perception only.
Bhul chuk maaf karna jee.

Waheguru rakha.

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How to do simran? (Part 2)

My email number 2 to an aspirant.

You appreciated my answer. Thanks for it. Now keeping in view your sincere interest in spirituality, I want to share my experiences with you.

(1) There is difference between spirituality and religion, though these are inter-related. The purpose of religion is to enhance spirituality through rituals and practice. And the aim of spirituality is to explore inner self to link it with DIVINE. The scriptures, interalia are there to help us. Our guru sahib never guided to personal worshipping. He wanted to treat guru as sri guru granth sahib jee > Gurbani > communication from God that, we lovingly say SHABAD. In fact, the SHABAD, the divine communication had been guru of gurusahib too and we are also expected to follow SHABAD GURU. And satguru helps us, support us. Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee is living God. It is matter of faith. I get direction, inspiration, support, grace, bliss, consolation, God’s communication, when I approach guru sahib in full faith. Because there I get gurbani and then SHABAD(God’s communication). And when we get his blessing, only then we are inspired for spirituality and we get wisdom (SOJHI) to understand the concepts. Jis voh bujhaye soi janey. But let the divine light of spirituality come to you from all sources.
(2) Now the point is Sri guru granth sahib contains complete interpretations of cosmic play of God. More you read, more you ponder, more you reflect, more you exchange views thereof, more meaning inscribe to your mind (hirday). It is not a chapter from educational book, of which we understand meaning and it is enough. Here the gurbani, more you reflect, more spiritual direction you get and God’s blessings are instrumental here, which depends on your sincerity and ego-less-ness. Even interpretations of scholars, sometimes, differ because of different perceptions. WAHEGURU’s blessings are required. It will shower upon you, once you surrender to HIM destroying your ego and depending on his grace. If two different interpretations reach you, donot be surprised. It is beauty of gurbani that every time, you recite same PAATH with devotion, you get new hidden meanings and new sense of bliss. So go on, go on, go on reciting same paath with devotion but
(a) BEFORE STARTING PAATH, pray –O waheguru, mere param pita jeeo –I depend on your grace. I surrender to you as I am aware that on my own, I donot possess capability to understand paath. Please inscribe it in my mind (hirdey). Believe me, there will be lot of difference in your perception.
(b) Though there is no rule, but just to impose self-discipline, it is better to fix a target for paath of a particular portion or any similar activity for 40 days. It brings regularity and self-discipline and ultimately, you get more self-confidence too.
(c) NOW LAST IMPORTANT POINT (My own MPORTANT experience)
One midnight, I was chatting with God, He made me understand this.
The point is to understand gurbani – number one prior ardas (prayer) is required, and number 2 an approach of student is required.
Now what is this approach? That is main idea for which I wanted to communicate with you. I am much benefited by same.
When we are student, we are taught a lesson by teacher – the teacher tells us to remember same by heart – we are asked to do homework – teacher makes us rewrite same – we are told to repeat same loudly in classroom – we are given test and what not. If there could be no tests, who could have bothered to understand as there could not be any necessity to reproduce same later on. WE WERE FORCED TO WRITE SAME IN OUR WORDS ON THE BASIS OF WHAT WE UNDERSTOOD. And it works.
While we read scriptures, we feel contented that we understand translation, so ENOUGH.
NO – BIG ‘NO’.
Please read a shabad (say hukam of day or any other portion) once- twice-thrice and close it and write the gist thereof in your words. This writing itself will constitute the difference as it is student’s approach. Donot bother for grammar. It is between you and God. Before starting, you have already taken HIM in confidence too. Then see HIS blessings.

And you know, my satguru wanted me to write question-answer-formed gist of sukhmani sahib jee. I asked, there had been many commentaries already written. I donot have academic background as I am useless in English. But my satguru guided me – “No, you write for me. You will read – I will listen. And I donot bother for your language”.
Lo I started studying sukhmani sahibjee keenly daily, writing gist, pasting in 19 questions. It took quite long time and in second round it was edited. And blogs were ready.
BUT BELIEVE ME, the bliss and grace I got, more time passed and I am a changed person and my satguru has changed direction of my life.

Conclusion: Paath with devotion is very good, but reflection and expression in own words is WONDERFUL. Please give importance to this aspect.
(3) This entire cosmic drama is created and is being monitored by HIM only. Sri Guru Granth Sahib explains logically this entire cosmic philosophy and provides guidance, support and direction to we people to get across this delusion created by maya. The way out is simran only. Japjee sahib is essence of Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji and Sukhmani Sahib is explanation to Japjee sahib.

THE ABOVE IS MY PERCEPTION ONLY. If I am wrong somewhere, please point out, I will take in right spirit to rectify me (as hukam from HIM only). Bhul chuk maaf karna jee.

Please let me have your reactions.

Remaining in next email.

WAHEGURU RAKHA

When you are offended?

One of my cyber-friend was much disturbed as someone had offended her. I sent her an email, the gist of which is as under:

The persons who offended you are not mean persons. But they are ignorant. Christianity teaches us wonderful way to overcome these types of situations.
You know when Lord Jesus was going to be crucified, he prayed to God to forgive those people who were crucifying him. And he gave the reason that those people were ignorant persons and cannot understand the situation and they deserve forgiveness. History tells us that those were prominent members of society having above average wisdom and literate enough (according to those days). Even then Lord Jesus treated them ignorant persons. Why?
Because there is difference between knowledge and wisdom. Knowledge is communicated to some person and his own PERCEPTION converts it to wisdom. The person concerned reacts according to wisdom acquired. The perception in each person is a God’s gift, it is different in every person and it is as per God’s will. People react to same kind of situation differently because of their different perception. If they could perceive same way they understand each other’s point of view, otherwise not. And if the person, with whom you are reacting, is unable to perceive your angle of view, he is not going to co-operate with you.
Lord Jesus surmised that people crucifying him were ignorant because they could not perceive correct angle of issue so they were forced to react in that pattern by their perception and thus deserve forgiveness.
If some person offends you, and you view the issue in above light, you will not blame that person but will treat his perception accountable for it; you will find him a suitable candidate for granting forgiveness. When we understand it, it is easier for us to forgive that person from our heart. We should pray God to grant him correct wisdom and should relieve our own heart from agony and discomfort.
Again this worldly life is temporary. One day we shall move to empire of God. Why to give over-importance to episodes of this dream-like-life and spoil our health?

The above email worked a lot. Now I share the same with you also.

Har gun gaavat par-upkaar nit

Date 26th March, 2007, Time about 11 AM scene a bus stop in west Delhi.

Harjeet Singh was waiting for his bus. He had to meet his friend outside Gurudwara Bangla Sahib at pre-appointed time. He was blissfully pondering over that day’s hukamnama from Darbar Sahib. He saw that a bus stopped and an old person with a stick in his hands fell down on the road, as his foot must have slipped. Everybody was busy with his own mental schedules and nobody was thinking out to help him. Harjeet Singh could surmise that old person badly required help. Harjeet Singh also had a busy schedule but at that time he recollected first stanza of guru’s hukam.

man tan antar parabh aahee
har gun gaavat par-upkaar nit tis rasnaa kaa mol kichh naahee.
He followed the meaning as >
“Deep within the nucleus of his mind and body, is God.
He continually sings the Glorious Praises of the Lord, and always does good for others; his tongue is priceless.”

He instead of continuing his journey, helped that old person to nearest orthopedist and arranged help for his safe arrival to his home suitably. Timely help could get much relief to that old person and Harjeet Singh earned lot of blessings from old person and waheguru too. He was satisfied that with satguru’s blessings he could follow hukam in right spirit. Both friends met lately and during the return journey they discussed as to why he was so terribly late. He was still in bliss and was re-living those moments when he could sing gurbani and could do good to someone who badly needed it. There was no haume (ego) in his expression and he was forbidding his friend too not to discuss it here and there. That is why I have also changed his name in this blog.

I was very much impressed by his gestures. The persons like me simply read scriptures but this sikh gentleman taught me what is sikhi and how guru’s orders are obeyed.

ENJOY THE BEAUTY OF PRESENT

Two children were playing a game. They were fighting due to some misunderstanding. The point of controversy could have affected the result of it. The fighting became fierce and they started manhandling each other causing body injuries.

Elders were sitting there. They tried to pacify the children and tried to convince that they were over-reacting to situation. To get more scores is not so important as to warrant such a tension. But the children were NOT convinced at all.

I was pondering. Don’t we also behave in worldly affairs just like these children? Don’t we give over importance to materialistic achievements and satisfaction of ego? The goal of children was to enjoy the game not the scores. Scores at the cost of friendship was not called for. Scores were bye-products and means to measure only. Our target is to enjoy the life, the precious gift gifted by God and not to have unwarranted tension for wealth and materialistic assets, power and other facilities. If we over-accumulate materialistic assets at the cost of health, mental peace or human relationship, it is of no worth as these accumulations were not our target but means to achieve target. Can we pay its cost by our health? The target was peaceful life with good health and tranquility of mind. If we spoil our present for mad race of satisfaction of selfish motives to such an extent that we go on paying costs in terms these targets itself, we are ultimately losers.

The elders could not convince children that in due course another game would start. There could be numerous succeeding games. Scores in one game was not so important to warrant fierce fighting. Same way, we have taken numerous births and maybe likely to have in future too. Suppose I am in transit to next birth after this life, and if wisdom prevails, I may conclude that I had given undue importance to earning race. Instead I should have relaxed and instead of having angry moments with others, I should have enjoyed each and every moment, the precious gifts of God to their full beauty in good activities and remaining with nature. If I were richer thousand times more during my lifetime, and if during my life, discomfort and mental agony could continuously have been multiplying, I would have been much loser in real sense. As wealth, power etc. were accumulated to get quality of life whereas we earned it by paying cost in terms of quality of life itself.

First, we accumulate wealth at the cost of health by ignoring basic necessities of body and then go to doctors and ask them to restore our health and for it we are ready to pay the acquired wealth. Why not to lead a balanced life from the beginning itself? If you ask senior citizens they will also opine that if they are allowed to rewind their cassette of life, they would definitely give less importance to materialistic gains and would try to relish the life being tuned in nature.

Do not remain in mad race of accumulation. Enjoy the beauty of present particularly in good activities and in tuning with nature.

CHATTED WITH GOD - A POEM

Chatted with God my best friend
Who is most dependable of course
I remained under stress and mental agony
Till he became my only source

Of strength and inspiration to enjoy
His creation, his gifts and his blessings
And to feel gratitude for he gave
To this undeserving person many things.

He was there everywhere to chat and
To be with me, to support me always
Through well-wishers, through trees,
Through flowers, through water and airs

Smiling always saying why you worry
You depend on me now I will manage
Will elevate you high high in the sky
And note now no power can damage

You are not alone, I am with you
Your problems and obstacles I will remove
Your pride had separated us now you returned
Enjoy but spread happiness wherever you move

You help others I will help you
You love others I will love you
You respect others cooperate others
You support others, I will love you

Who makes my children happy are more adorable to me
I love them, bless them and they remain with me
Help the people in sufferings and brighten your “self”
I love them, bless them and they remain with me.

Thank you divine father thank you
I did not deserve your grace you blessed me
I will express gratitude by caring others
And will try to be your wiser child. Please bless me.


(It is my own composition)

TU DATA DATAAR TERA DITTA KHAVNA

Last time when I went to Gurudwara Bangla Sahib, by Waheguru’s grace, I had opportunity to get prasad in langar. While sitting in pangat, I overheard conversation between two elderly women as they were sitting very close and were speaking somewhat louder. But the conclusion of discussion was quite encouraging. I want to share same.

One lady explained that a practice has been started by her daughter-in-law in their kitchen. It has been instrumental in contributing towards change of environment of home. When we cook something as prasad, it has to have its sanctity. The in-charge of kitchen is particular about hygiene and everything is cooked with devotion and faith. One gets moral pressure to recite waheguru’s name while cooking. Definitely, ordinarily cooked food and items cooked as prasad, there is lot of difference as it carries vibrations respectively. The lady whenever comes to Gurudwara Bangla Sahib, takes AMRIT from gurudwara to her home. The same is kept with full reverence in home. When they cook meal they take special care about cleanliness and sanctity and knead the flour with amrit. Those phulkas are now prasadey. (god’s gift). While cooking they recite waheguru’s name or some shabad. Entire food becomes prasad and carries strong positive vibration of bliss. Everbody accepts same with reverence and food taken by family members is likely to elevate each one. It changes atmosphere of home with more happiness and love among family members.

Tu data datar tera dita khavna.

Why do you over-worry for health?

I was an officer in a Bank and had had transfers to different stations. I was posted at Jamshedpur where I stayed in a rented apartment. The apartment consisted of rooms and a verandah. I complained to landlord that ceiling of verandah was in dilapidated condition. The landlord took an iron rod and broke away the portions of ceiling, which could have fallen down.
I was living in a house and was likely to continue in it. A portion of it was broken away by landlord but I did not get any mental tension because I felt that (i) after all landlord was owner and I possessed house for use only and as such he had had full rights (ii) I was not having any sense of belongingness to that house and it was clear in my mind that apartment was temporarily with me and I had to leave same in due course (iii) I could anyhow manage with that situation as at that time there was no better choice. As a tenant or occupier of apartment what was my duty? It was to take care of property reasonably and to report any major development to landlord. Suppose I was in my own house, the situation could have been altogether different.
Now the point to ponder here is that God has given us this life. Along-with other many gifts, our body is a valuable gift. But HE is real owner and one day we have to leave this body. When we treat ourselves as owner, we get mental tension and we strive hard to worry about health. WORRY does not solve the problem. As in above parable, we as a tenant/occupier of body have responsibility to take care of body to best of our abilities and then we have to report the matter to DIVINE LANDLORD who will see what is required in the matter. Believe it, you can put efforts only but results are not in your hands. If you have health problems, take necessary steps to rectify situation but please DONOT WORRY. Worry does not solve the problem. It is not for you to decide your fate. Everything moves according to pre-ordained destiny and according to will of that DIVINE LANDLORD. To worry about your health is HIS responsibility. You simply take necessary steps and seek HIS guidance. Ultimately, we have to leave this house, as we are not owners. Then why to worry as owner of house???

JOURNEYS AND NOT ONLY DESTINATIONS SHOULD BE RELISHED.

The family of a friend of mine had gone to Vaishno Devi Temple. It is a temple in Jammu and one has to track the hill for distance of 14 +14 km. The family had to expend about 7 hours on foot journey from nearest town of Katra and 5 minutes for worshipping before deity. The persons habitual of comfortable city life were in full bliss and were overjoyed. None looked tired.

We exchanged our views on it. The conclusion was that not only they relished the destination place but also relished the entire journey itself. That was the reason they were as fresh as they were when they started outward journey.

Then we did pondering over the point. We are in habit to treat the journey as burdensome and destination item as our target. Instead we should relish the journey and target both as per circumstances and situations. This I say not in the context of real journeys only but in LIFE TOO. We set a target of our life as per blueprint of aim of our life. We put efforts to achieve same. We treat the efforts as burden and crave to get result according to our expectations. Efforts we did not enjoy and result we enjoy only when it is as per our expectation otherwise not. But if we make our habit to (i) have a plan for our target (ii) put efforts and enjoy the efforts (iii) put best efforts and leave the result in hands of God and to (iv) relish the final outcome, our life will be changed. We shall have more incidents covering much more time to give us enjoyment. You are in kitchen - cooking should also be enjoyed along-with eating the cooked items. You are going to office – just enjoy the driving also. You are engaged in any project, efforts to shape same should also be enjoyed. You want to expand business, relish the outcome of marketing strategies but more important is to enjoy the efforts of steps taken including interactions with people etc.

Journeys and not only destinations should be relished.

Sense of belongingness

My friend came to me and we went on long drive in my car. The road was rough and full of pits. Every time, when there was jerk in car, I felt like saying and sometimes said also that driver should drive the vehicle carefully. My friend was enjoying the journey more than me because my attention was diverted towards car. And I was having a sort of discomfort.

Then discussions took turn and my friend offered to purchase car for an amount. I agreed. He gave me meagre amount as token money. We shook hands and said that the car now belonged to my friend (of course with his liability to pay cost later on). After some time, position was reversed. I was enjoying more than him and he was pulling up the driver.

We remained in same journey, in same car, in same circumstances but our angle of thinking was changed. Why? It was sense of belongingness, which caused all this.

The proprietor and manager of small store are almost managing the show of their business in same manner. But proprietor is more concerned and remains more under tension as compared to manager. Manager has to manage the day and report the outcome to proprietor. He is not so much affected by profits and strength of unit as proprietor is. Both are in same store, in same time, in same circumstances. The problem is sense of belongingness.

My ponderings led me to believe that God has given us human life and he has given us much infrastructural support in form of family members, social circles, livelihood, wealth, assets to enjoy etc. etc. If we treat ourselves owner of these instead of trustee to take care of same, we get deeper sense of belongingness and we always remain under mental tension to maintain same. If we treat all as gifts of God with responsibility to take care of same with sincerity, we enjoy life fully without tension. We are advised by divine father to take care and report the outcome to HIM, seek HIS guidance and support to remove obstacles and to relish the life full extent. Everything belongs to God almighty. You have to simply enjoy. If anything gets spoiled because circumstances were beyond your control, report the matter to DIVINE MANAGEMENT – be relaxed. Now that management has liability to respond to your request – to support you. Your responsibility is over. Your responsibility is to be sincere in life, abide by God’s commands, enjoy gifts given by him, depend on HIM. Don’t become owner of your life or you will miss support of your DIVINE PARTNER. Become an employee and relish the life avoiding all sense of belongingness.

May God bless you

WHY GOD DOES NOT ACCEDE TO ALL OUR REQUESTS?

Time 11 A.M. I went to grocery shop near my home. A few children of our vicinity were given cash rewards for their performance in cultural show. A lad of about 5 years came to shopkeeper and gave him Rs.200/- and wanted toffees and chocolates. He was to purchase it out of reward money and wanted to finish stuff before he reaches home. The shopkeeper welcomed him and gave him as per his requirement. Now son of shopkeeper who was also of same age approximately took out Rs.200/- from his pocket and wanted his father-cum-shopkeeper to give him toffees and chocolates of Rs.200/-. The shopkeeper did not oblige his son despite lengthy discussions. The shopkeeper wanted his son to expend minimum on toffees/chocolates and instead to go for fruit or some other nourishing thing.
The father was right in his own way. But small mind of son was unable to perceive as to why his father could give what his friend demanded and why he did not accede to his request. Is that other boy more adorable (whereas he is no way related to his father rather)? He was not convinced with father’s reasoning. Father would try to convince him. Convinced or not convinced, father will goad him to get things, which he requires and are beneficial to him and not what he desires.
My mind was running somewhere else. I was thinking that just like this worldly father, our divine father too does not always respond to our requests. We are in habit to approach him continuously with new request every time. He loves us. We may or may not be convinced but HE will bless us with what we deserve and what we require. Next time if any of our requests is not fulfilled, it should not be point of grievance. Your divine father always knows what you require. Have faith in HIM.

HOW AFFIRMATIONS WORK?

How affirmations work?

There is an inbuilt pressure from our sanskars to do actions according to those sanskars. This in fact is a vicious circle. We have propensity for actions which are much affected by sanskars. How sanskars are formed. These are formed by deep-rooted habits. What is habit? The same action repeated again and again.

Now these sanskars monitor our chitta. In our antahakaran we have 4 parts. Mana(emotional wing) Budhi(intellectual wing) aham(ego of existence) and chitta. Chitta is store house of effects of all experiences. This chitta is different in different people. It is because of different sanskars / experiences / input they are having. Mana/budhi gets messages from 5 indriyas and analyze same in view of feedback provided by chitta. If chitta is strong, optimistic with positive qualities, it will provide a different feedback as compared to chitta with weaker inclination. The same dialogue or same situation in life has got different effects on different people because of chitta.

A person will be in a position to take positive decisions if chitta is strong. We have to strengthen chitta. It is only possible if we (i) block negative input and (ii) increase positive input. Now the question that arises is "How to pump in positive input?" Now it is question. Whatever we ponder and with which attitude, we do it; it affects the stored input of chitta. Every action of thought and deed – habit – behavior – sanskar leaves behind imprint of its effect in chitta. Means we have to be alert on it.

AFFIRMATIONS, provide us determinations for future behavioral patterns. Continued repetition of same with sincerity leaves a positive effect on chitta – increase positive input thereof - blocks mind to avoid trapping in vicious negative thoughts (getting thereof negative input thus). Our chitta is strengthened. When Antahakarna has to take decision as to what is to be done, chitta will provide a view full of optimism.

AFFIRMATIONS can be religious-ones linked with blessings of God or it could be otherwise inspiring / motivational.

WHY SHOULD WE BE BUSY TO HELP OTHERS?

You will get happy moments coupled with lots of unanticipated problems as per your "prarbadh". In difficult times, you will be tempted to ask God "Why me". But it should not be resorted upon. Rather, you should forget your problems. Remote control of your sukha dukha is in HIS hands. While you should take remedial steps - to take stock of position of your situation and and to take constructive steps to remove your problems. But sometimes problems take its own time to settle. You should forget after taking remedial steps. Instead of worrying about your problems, (as worry does not bring in any positive result - rather it deteriorates the situation), you should try to solve the problems of others. You will get satisfaction, god's strength to face prarabadh, and your mind will preoccupied to avoid any trapping in vicious negative thoughts.

Then there is another point. We are always surrounded by vibrations of satvik rajasic tamasik thoughts. It is natural tendency that if force is not applied to keep level of anything on this earth it will tend to fall on earth due to gravitational effect. Means adho gati. The system of inner self works in a manner that our mind is always busy on any thought. And all thoughts leave behind imprint on our subconscious mind. The continuous input of stream of thoughts affect the nature and strength at mental level. If input is of positive imprint - more strength and viceversa. If we are not alert on monitoring out thought waves, these are likely to have adho gati - i.e. it will be full of negative thoughts of pessimism. If we are in difficult times, the mind gets fear and worries. If mind is not diverted on noble thoughts, it is trapped in vicious circle of negative vibrations. So it is necessary to keep ourselves busy on jobs involving noble thoughts. When we are busy to help others, we get blissful pleasures and during that time our mind is diverted and is saved from vicious circles of negative pessimistic thoughts.